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Creating a Culture of Acceptance in the Church: Come as you are!

In No Perfect People Allowed (Chapter 5), John Burke emphasizes that a culture of acceptance is essential for creating a church where people feel truly welcomed, loved, and transformed by Christ. Many people today hesitate to come to church because they fear judgment, rejection, or the expectation to be “perfect” before they belong. But Jesus modeled radical acceptance—welcoming sinners, outsiders, and the broken, not because they had everything figured out, but because He loved them.

1. What Is a Culture of Acceptance?

A culture of acceptance means that everyone, regardless of their background, struggles, or doubts, is welcomed with open arms into the church community. It creates an environment where individuals feel safe to express their authentic selves, fostering connections built on empathy and understanding. This welcoming atmosphere encourages open dialogue about faith, as people share their journeys and experiences without fear of judgment. It does not mean compromising biblical truth, but rather loving people as they are while trusting God to bring transformation. By embodying this acceptance, we invite not only personal growth but also collective healing, as we journey together in faith and fellowship, recognizing that each individual’s story adds richness to the tapestry of our community.

Key Elements of a Culture of Acceptance:

✔ Welcoming people without conditions – “We must create environments of acceptance, where people feel safe to belong before they believe.” (John Burke, Ch. 5) This foundational principle encourages us to embrace individuals for who they are, allowing them to feel the warmth of community without fear of exclusion based on their current beliefs or circumstances. Emphasizing genuine hospitality fosters relationships that can flourish over time.
✔ Seeing people through God’s eyes – Jesus saw potential in people before they changed, recognizing their inherent value and the unique journey each one is on. By adopting this perspective, we open our hearts to understanding others deeply and compassionately, leading us to support their growth in faith and life.
✔ Loving before judging – The church must reflect Jesus, who met sinners with grace before calling them to repentance (John 8:10-11). This approach underscores the importance of love and acceptance in guiding others towards transformation, as it is our kindness that often paves the way for heartfelt change.
✔ Trusting the Holy Spirit for transformation – Acceptance does not mean approving of sin, but believing that God changes lives over time. This trust allows us to be patient with others’ journeys, recognizing that transformation is a gradual process filled with experiences of learning and growth that require our unconditional support.

Example from Jesus’ Ministry:

  • Jesus welcomed sinners and outcasts (Luke 15:1-2). His ministry was characterized by a profound compassion for those marginalized by society, demonstrating that his love transcends societal norms and boundaries.
  • He ate with tax collectors and prostitutes, extending grace before demanding change (Matthew 9:10-13), demonstrating his unwavering compassion for those marginalized by society and illustrating the profound message of acceptance and redemption that he preached.
  • He loved people into transformation, rather than requiring them to clean up first, emphasizing the profound grace that reaches out to even the most marginalized individuals, as illustrated in (Luke 19:1-10 – Zacchaeus’ encounter with Jesus).

✔ “If we don’t accept people where they are, how will they ever take the journey toward Christ?” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

2. Why Is It Important for a Church to Build a Culture of Acceptance?

A. It Reflects the Heart of Jesus

  • Jesus never rejected people based on their past, struggles, or doubts, showing immense compassion and understanding to all, embracing even those who felt unworthy or lost in their journey of faith and life.
  • The Pharisees rejected sinners; Jesus drew them in and transformed them, showing unconditional love and mercy, demonstrating that everyone has the potential for redemption and a fresh start.
  • “Jesus led with acceptance and grace, and people changed as a result.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

✔ A church that doesn’t model Jesus’ acceptance misrepresents the Gospel.

B. It Breaks Down Barriers That Keep People from Church

  • Many stay away from church because they feel they won’t be accepted. They often perceive that their differences or past experiences may lead to judgment, causing them to hesitate in seeking spiritual community or connection.
  • Some struggle with sin, addiction, or doubt and fear they won’t belong in a community that offers love, support, and understanding, feeling isolated and unsure of their place among others who seem to have it all together.
  • “The greatest obstacle keeping people from Christ is often not theological—it’s relational.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

✔ If people feel loved and welcomed, they will be more open to encountering Jesus.

C. It Creates a Safe Environment for Real Transformation

  • Acceptance doesn’t mean ignoring sin; it means creating a safe place for change, where individuals feel valued and understood, allowing them the opportunity to grow and transform without fear of judgment or rejection.
  • When people feel safe to be real, to express their true thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment, they are more likely to let God work in their lives. This openness fosters deeper connections and allows for transformative experiences.
  • “People must feel they can belong before they believe and before they behave differently.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

✔ If we expect immediate change before acceptance, we miss the way Jesus worked.

D. It Builds a Diverse and Inclusive Church Community

  • The early church was radically diverse—Jews, Gentiles, rich, poor, sinners, and saints worshiped together.
  • A culture of acceptance allows all people—regardless of race, status, or past—to be part of the body of Christ.
  • “The church should be the most inclusive place in the world, where all people find grace and truth.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

✔ A church without acceptance becomes an exclusive club, not a reflection of God’s Kingdom.

3. How to Build a Culture of Acceptance in the Church

A. Lead with Grace, Not Judgment

✔ Key Verse: Romans 2:4 – “God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance.”
✔ Book Quote: “Grace must come before truth—without grace, truth is too hard to hear.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

  • People don’t change because of judgment; they change because of grace, often finding new paths to personal growth and transformation when met with understanding and compassion rather than criticism.
  • Jesus spoke truth, but first, He led with love (John 4:1-26 – The woman at the well). This encounter illustrates that even when discussing difficult topics, the foundation of His message was rooted in compassion and understanding, allowing for a heartfelt conversation that transformed a life.
  • The church must reflect God’s kindness before it calls people to transformation.

✔ Application: Train church leaders and members to welcome first, teach second—creating space for people to encounter Jesus before pushing rules on them.

B. Make Belonging the First Step, Not the Last

✔ Key Verse: Luke 19:5 – “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.”
✔ Book Quote: “People need to know they are welcome before they even know what they believe.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

  • Jesus invited Zacchaeus into relationship before demanding change, demonstrating that true transformation begins with acceptance and love, rather than mere requirements or rules.
  • The church should not create barriers of performance before acceptance, as this could discourage individuals from seeking involvement and hinder the growth of a supportive and inclusive community.

✔ Application: Foster welcoming small groups, social spaces, and relationships where people feel like they belong before they fully understand the faith.

C. Train the Church to Embrace People with Different Backgrounds

✔ Key Verse: Romans 15:7 – “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
✔ Book Quote: “People are drawn to God when they feel truly loved, not when they feel they must prove their worth.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

  • Many people in church unintentionally create cliques—this must be actively broken to foster a more inclusive and welcoming environment for everyone, ensuring that all members feel valued and connected within the community.
  • All people—rich, poor, struggling, successful, skeptics, and believers—should feel welcomed.

✔ Application: Teach members to greet, include, and intentionally connect with newcomers.

D. Trust the Holy Spirit to Change People Over Time

✔ Key Verse: Philippians 1:6 – “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion.”
✔ Book Quote: “Our job is not to fix people—it’s to love them and let God work in them.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

  • Churches often try to force behavior change too soon, but transformation is God’s job, and true change takes time, patience, and a deep reliance on the grace that only He can provide.
  • People grow at different paces—some take years to overcome sin, addiction, or brokenness, while others may find paths to healing and growth more quickly. It’s essential to recognize and respect these varying timelines, as each individual’s journey is unique and influenced by countless factors such as personal experiences, support systems, and internal resilience.
  • A culture of acceptance allows for gradual growth rather than forced change.

✔ Application: Teach patience in discipleship—celebrate progress, not just perfection.

E. Share Testimonies of Acceptance and Transformation

✔ Key Verse: Revelation 12:11 – “They overcame by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.”
✔ Book Quote: “When people hear stories of how others found grace, they are drawn into the same journey.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

  • Real stories of grace inspire others to believe they, too, can be accepted, reminding us of the transformative power of redemption and the importance of showing kindness and understanding to one another in our shared human experience.
  • Sharing testimonies creates a culture of openness and encouragement.

✔ Application: Regularly share testimonies of how God has transformed people who were first accepted as they were.

Conclusion: A Church Where All Are Welcome

✔ A culture of acceptance reflects the heart of Jesus—grace first, transformation second.
✔ Without acceptance, churches become places of exclusion, not restoration.
✔ With acceptance, people are drawn into a journey of faith and true change through Christ.

“We accept people where they are because Jesus did. He changes them—we don’t.” (John Burke, Ch. 5)

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